The Spirit of Diotrephes

3 John 9-10: “I wrote unto the church: but Diotrephes, who loveth to have the preeminence among them, receiveth us not.  10Wherefore, if I come, I will remember his deeds which he doeth, prating against us with malicious words: and not content therewith, neither doth he himself receive the brethren, and forbiddeth them that would, and casteth them out of the church.”

For the Scriptural answer, we examine:

  • Historical Context: Written between A.D. 85-95, the Book of 3 John does not directly name its author. The tradition from the earliest days of the church has been that the Apostle John is the author.  John’s purpose in writing this third epistle is threefold: First, he writes to commend and encourage his beloved co-worker, Gaius, in his ministry of hospitality to the itinerant messengers who were going from place to place to preach the Gospel of Christ; Second, he warns his readers about and condemns the behavior of Diotrephes, an abusive leader who had taken over one of the churches in the province of Asia, whose behavior was directly opposed to all that the apostle and the Gospel represented; Third, he commends the example of Demetrius who was reported as having a good testimony from all.  John exhorts him to continue to do good by not imitating the evil exemplified by Diotrephes. Not only had this man taken over the leadership of a church in Asia, but refused to recognize John’s authority as an apostle and refused to receive his letters or submit to his directions. He also circulated malicious slanders against John and excommunicated members who showed support and hospitality to John’s messengers (demonstrating tacit support for John himself).  We get a good picture of the personality of the Apostle who was called by Jesus a “Son of Thunder” (Mark 3:17).  Here he brings charges against a way-ward church leader in order to secure and maintain the tranquility and mission of the church.  Notice how John does not recognize as untouchable the status of this pastor.
  • Grammatical Usage:  V. 9: “preeminence” is in the Greek “Philoproteuo” meaning, “to aspire to pre-eminence, to desire to be first: in context, over-bearing – dictatorial”; “receiveth” is “Epidechomai” meaning, “to accept in the context of dominion”; V. 10: “remember” or “Hupomimnesko” meaning, “to recall in order to admonish”; “prating” or “Phluareo” meaning, “to utter nonsense, to bring forward idle accusations, make empty charges, accuse one falsely with malicious words”; “forbiddeth” or “Koluo” meaning, “prevent, prohibit, refuse”; “casteth” or “Ekballo” meaning, “to cast, drive or send out with force.”
  • Literal Application: I have written to the church, but the would-be dictator who wishes to dominate them, Diotrephes, does not recognize my authority. Therefore, if I come, I will point out his deeds publically which he does, bringing preposterous charges against us with evil words; and, not content with these things, he not only did not receive the brothers, but he hindered those who wished to do so, and he forced them out of the church.

Contextual/Comparative Interpretation:

INTRODUCTION

1. In the study of Third John, notice the commendable spirit found in Gaius…

                   a. The truth was in him – 3Jn 3

                   b. He walked in the truth – 3Jn 3-4

                   c. He demonstrated love and hospitality towards the brethren and for strangers – 3Jn 5-6

2. Unfortunately, another man mentioned in this letter did not possess the spirit of Gaius…

                   a. His name was Diotrephes

                   b. And John felt it necessary to relate what Diotrephes had done, and what he (John) would   have to do in response – 3Jn 9-10

3. While there are many people today who possess the spirit of Gaius, and bless the Lord’s church accordingly, it is not uncommon for “The Spirit of Diotrephes”…

                   a. To be found in some churches

                   b. To tear apart the love and unity that ought to prevail in every congregation

4. That we might be on guard against “The Spirit of Diotrephes”, in this lesson we should…

                   a. Identify exactly what characterized the spirit of Diotrephes

   b. Consider how it was so contrary to the principles taught by our Lord and His apostles

We begin, then, by noticing that “The Spirit of Diotrephes” was one of…

I. DESIRING PREEMINENCE (9a)

   A. IN THE CASE OF DIOTREPHES…

      1. John wrote that he “loves to have the preeminence”

      2. The word “preeminence” in the Greek is “philoproteuo” {fil-op-rote-yoo’-o}

        a. It means to be fond of being first

        b. In context: ambitious of distinction; love to have the preeminence

      3. It was his love of being first (a sin in itself) that led to other sins that he committed

      4. Unfortunately, Diotrephes failed to consider that “sin” of preeminence – Isaiah 14:12-14

   B. THE TEACHING OF THE SCRIPTURES…

      1. When the mother of James and John expressed a desire for her sons to be given preeminence, Jesus taught the principle of humility and service – Mt 20:20-28

      2. He did so again as he spoke out against the scribes and Pharisees – Mt 23:6-12

      3. Paul taught that in matters of honor we should give preference to one another – Ro 12:10

      4. Indeed, we must not have the sort of selfish ambition found in Diotrephes, but the humble servitude found in the mind of Christ – cf. Php 2:2-8

      5. Jesus Himself called for the denial of self – Matthew 16:24

   C. HOW ABOUT TODAY?

      1. We live in the “me generation” where the spirit of Diotrephes reigns supreme

      2. It should not surprise us, when the church is so often influenced by the world, to hear people say:

         a. “But I want…”

         b. “But I think…”

      3. There is no room in the kingdom for the “me first” mentality; where it exists, more sins and problems are bound to follow

               We see that to be the case as we notice that “The Spirit Of Diotrephes” was also one of…

II. REJECTING APOSTOLIC AUTHORITY (9b)

   A. IN THE CASE OF DIOTREPHES…

      1. John writes simply: “[he] does not receive us”

      2. It may seem incredible that one would refuse to accept and

         submit to…

         a. The disciple whom Jesus loved!

         b. An apostle of our Lord Jesus Christ!

         c. The Word of God

      3. But because of his love to be first, there was no room in Diotrephes’ heart for someone over him in matters of authority

   B. THE TEACHING OF THE SCRIPTURES…

      1. It is important that we appreciate the proper chain of authority in the kingdom…

         a. As Creator, God inherently has all authority

         b. However, the Father has delegated all authority to His Son – Mt 28:18; Ep 1:20-22

         c. Jesus in turn has delegated authority to His apostles – Jn 13:20

            1) He sent the Holy Spirit to assist them, and guide them

               into all the truth – Jn 14:26; 16:12-13

            2) Thus they could speak and write with the authority of God behind them – cf. 1Co 14:37; 1Th 2:13

      2. This is why we find that the early church “continued steadfastly in the apostles’ doctrine…” – Ac 2:42

   C. HOW ABOUT TODAY?

      1. The spirit of Diotrephes appears to reign unchecked in those churches that reject…

         a. The authority of the apostles as expressed in the Word of God in preference for the authority of their own councils, synods, or conferences

         b. The clear teachings of the apostles concerning such issues as homosexuality, women preachers, etc.

         c. Apostolic precedent (whether by command or example) to authorize any church practice that suits their fancy

      2. And the spirit of Diotrephes reigns supreme in the lives of those professing Christians who reject the apostles’ call for holy and sanctified living…

         a. So they can choose their own sexual preference and lifestyle

         b. So they can put their own personal interests first, before the kingdom of God

Yes, living in a narcissistic society such as ours, it is not uncommon to find the spirit of Diotrephes present in so many peoples’ lives.

When it is found in the lives of Christians, things can get ugly rather quickly.  As we see in our text, “The Spirit of Diotrephes” can manifest itself in Christians by…

III. SPEAKING EVIL OF BRETHREN (10a)

   A. IN THE CASE OF DIOTREPHES…

      1. John relates that Diotrephes was guilty of “prating against us with malicious words”

      2. The word “prating” in the Greek is phluareo {floo-ar-eh’-o}…

         a. It means to be a babbler or trifler

         b. By implication it means to berate idly or mischievously

      3. The word “malicious” is poneros {pon-ay-ros’} and means “hurtful, evil”

      4. Diotrephes gave little concern, then, about how he spoke with evil and hurtful words concerning his brethren

   B. THE TEACHING OF THE SCRIPTURES…

      1. We will be judged for the idle words that we use – Mt 12:36-37

      2. We are commanded not to speak evil of one another – Jm 4:11-12

         a. To do so is to speak evil of the law of God!

         b. To do so is to set ourselves up as judges

      3. While it may be necessary at times to “rebuke” our brethren (cf. 2Ti 4:2)…

         a. We are given the proper tools (i.e., the Scriptures themselves) – 2Ti 3:16

         b. We are instructed how to approach those in error – 2Ti 2:24-26; Ga 6:1

   C. HOW ABOUT TODAY?

      1. Does not the spirit of Diotrephes manifest itself when Christians engage in malicious gossip?

      2. Does not the spirit of Diotrephes reign when overzealous and self-appointed “guardians of the faith” lambaste their brethren with whom they differ?

      3. Indeed, it is often the desire for preeminence that prompts Christians to reject apostolic teachings concerning brotherly relations and to engage in malicious prating

The use of malicious words are not the only weapons used by those possessed by the spirit of Diotrephes, however if in their love for preeminence they have actually gained positions of

influence, it is not unusual to see “The Spirit of Diotrephes manifested in…

IV. ABUSING CHURCH DISCIPLINE (10b)

   A. IN THE CASE OF DIOTREPHES…

      1. Not content with using prating with malicious words, Diotrephes is described as one who…

         a. “does not receive the brethren”

         b. “forbids those who wish to, putting them out of the church”

      2. In two ways, then, he was abusing church discipline…

         a. Refusing to associate with those worthy of association

         b. Using it as a weapon to manipulate others to do gain the advantage and supremacy

   B. THE TEACHING OF THE SCRIPTURES…

      1. Jesus taught there might be times when church discipline is necessary – Mt 18:15-17

      2. Paul described such a time on two occasions, and gave instructions for carrying it out

         a. When a man was living with his father’s wife – 1Co 5:1-13

         b. When Christians refused to work – 2Th 3:6-15

      3. So there are times when we must “put away from yourselves that wicked person”

      4. But there is also the possibility of abusing this method of church discipline, as in the case of Diotrephes

   C. HOW ABOUT TODAY?

      1. That church discipline could be abused back then, means that it can be abused today

      2. This is not to be an excuse to never exercise church discipline, but to do so carefully

      3. If another church has carried it out against someone does not mean they did so properly…

         a. It may have been prompted as part of a power play by a “Diotrephes”

         b. The ones being withdrawn from may be innocent…thus the need to exercise discretion and to know the facts before accepting the disciplinary action of another church

Conclusion:

“The Spirit Of Diotrephes” can be summarized as one or all of the following:

     1. desiring preeminence;

     2. rejecting Scriptural authority;

     3. speaking evil of brethren; and

     4. abusing church discipline.  Our passage is underscored by 1 Peter 5:3 which contains a wonderful description of a balanced pastoral ministry: “Neither as being lords over God’s heritage, but being examples to the flock.” Notice the plural context referring to Elder oversight and note the Greek expressly forbids a tyrannical approach to leadership as cited in 3 John.  This precludes the preeminence of one over another among the Elders.  Authority is not something to be “lorded over” the church; rather, elders are to be an example of truth, love, and godliness for God’s flock to follow (see also 1 Timothy 4:12).  A pastor is “the steward of God” (Titus 1:7), and as such he and the associated elders are answerable to God for their leadership in the church with a focus primarily on spiritual matters such as edifying believers and equipping the saints to do the work of the ministry (Ephesians 4:12).